Jealousy Is Good

Hello!!! Everyone, today we live in a world in which no one is satisfied.No matter how good is our life, we never get satisfied with it.We always want more.In brief, “we can say that we want everything”.

And if we does not have any particular thing no matter of how big or small, precious or worthless, beautiful or ugly that thing is.“If we don’t possess that thing then, we became jealous of that person who has that thing”.

So what is jealous?

feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages.

Generally, people consider jealousy as a bad quality or emotion.People say that if you have jealous in you then, it might ruin your life.”Because if you have jealousy in you then, you never have mental stability”.And this happens because in jealousy we always want things which we don’t have.

But according to me, all the progress today we have made is because of jealousy.The credit of our anything and everything is goes to jealousy.

And the people who say that if we have jealousy in us then, we never have mental stability.But according to me, “sometimes we get jealous of that mental stability also”.

Let’s assume if you see a person with great mental stability and peace.Then what you feel? You definitely feel jealous of that person.And why you feel jealous? You feel jealous because “you also want that type of mental stability”.

So, we can say that we also get jealous for that thing also, that we are not getting is because of jealousy.

But according to me jealousy and mental stability have no connection at all.”Because jealousy means we want that thing which we don’t possess and other people possess”.

And wanting something is called “wish”.So, it is a wish and wishing for something is not bad.We always wish for things whether we are jealous or not.

And by this, we can say that jealousy is also a type of wish.

So, if we don’t wish for something or we don’t get jealous of something.Then, we never gonna get progress or success in our life.So, “now jealousy becomes an important key to success”.Right?

Some people don’t agree with me.They say we become successful and progressive “because of our hard work and creativity”.

I totally agree with you.But where did you get the motivation to become progressive and successful?

“Because doing anything needs motivation” no matter what you are doing.Whether you are going shopping or you are going in space, everything needs motivation.And if you look carefully then you are gonna find that you get motivation from the jealousy.

Let’s try to understand this by the following example:-

Assume that If your colleague in office has the best salary, bigger house, and the better car then you.Then what you feel? Then you became jealous of him.And you think “I am also like him then, why he has everything better than me”.

And in that jealousy, you try to find out that how he becomes so successful.In this way you became creative and then, you work hard to apply those creative things that how he become successful to become like him.

And by doing all these things in some time we also became successful like him or even more than him.So, “we get satisfied here but now we became jealous of some other colleague of ours who is more successful than us”.

So by these, we can say that jealousy is that emotion which never ends and so our progress and success.

“It is the nature of human being to get jealous”.You cannot control it, you cannot hide it, you cannot subdue it.And if you try to do any of the above things then, your playing hide and seek with nature.But remember in the end, nature wins all and every game.

“Some people say jealousy is bad but having healthy competition is good”.But according to me, no competition in the world is healthy.And the competition itself means you are jealous of that person whom you want to compete that’s why you are competing with that person.

So let’s try to understand this.But first of all, what does a competition mean?

the activity or condition of striving to gain or win something by defeating or establishing superiority over others.

So, if you are trying to win over someone or trying to establish your superiority over them then, you are definitely jealous of them otherwise why you do this.

For example:-

In students, there is always feeling of “competition”.And this is because they always want more marks than others.They are always jealous of marks of other students.

If you ask any student that what is his/her goal in school life or in college life.Then maximum students say that “their ultimate goal is getting first place in their class, school or college”.

“They did not want to get good percentage.They just want that their percentage should be better than other students”.

If a student gets 95 percentage but another ten students also get 95 percentage.Then he did not become happy or satisfied with his percentage.

But if that same student gets 90 percentage and gets first position in his class.And the student who got second position in the class gets 85 percentage than, that student who got 90 percentage becomes happy.

So, he does not get happy when he scored more marks.But when he scored more marks than other students despite his own marks are less as compared to previous ones he becomes happy.

And why this happens? it happens because he is jealous of other students.

So, competition is just a fancy word for jealousy.

And according to me this jealousy or competition is good.And I am saying this because “in this jealousy you feel happy if you’re achievement is bigger then the achievement of the person you are jealous of”.

And if your achievement is smaller then, you try to make it big because of jealousy as we talked earlier.

But you people are thinking that in that example of that student he gets low marks and he becomes happy.And if this happens every time then, he cannot accomplish things as of his potential.

But who cares about accomplishing things if you are happy.Because in this world you cannot accomplish everything.”But if you are happy then, you have accomplished everything”.

So, jealousy is the road to happiness.

Generally, people say “we became jealous when we love someone or hate someone”.But according to me love or hate feeling does not have any connection in jealousy.

For example:-

If there is husband and wife and both works.But if the wife earns more money than husband then, the husband becomes jealous of her.”He loves her but he became jealous of her that, how much money she earns”.

So, we became jealous of a particular thing, not people.

We not only become jealous of things of peoples but we also become jealous of nonliving things also.

For example:-

Workers in factory become jealous of the machines of the factory.”That this machine is making 10 products per hour and we are only able to make 4 products per hour”.

And if those workers become jealous then, they work hard.”And by this jealousy they are able to make 6 products per hour”.

So, jealous means productivity.

But that’s not it, “we also became jealous of even ourself”.By thinking that in my younger days how much energy I possess, I have the ability to do anything.But today I cannot do anything.

And we also became jealous of “time” also.Like we say that college time was the best time of our life.But today we are just living just because we have to live.

So, we became jealous of only good things.

Some readers might be thinking that I am just trying to present jealousy with sugar coated and not presenting an actual side of jealousy.But if you look carefully then, this is also the side of jealousy.But we always only look at the negative sides of things.

Jealousy is definitely negative emotion.”But if we try we can channel it in a positive way to become successful”.

So,

Be jealous.

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84 thoughts on “Jealousy Is Good

  1. Marsa Alam Desert Retreat says:

    Yes we should always try to channel negative emotions for a positive end. But it’s the “envious resentment” that I am not comfortable with. If a person is envious but does not resent the other person I don’t feel that carries the same sentiment as someone who will stop at nothing to have what someone else has. When someone is experiencing jealousy, how does that emotion impact on their physical and mental health, is it like a repressed anger that will fester and boil inside and eventually manifest in illness, or cause the person to behave unacceptably if the desire is not satisfied? Jealousy can make people sick and it’s best to learn to accept that, what is for you is for you and to celebrate the achievements of others without ‘resentment’. Resentment is a negative projection that can harm the self and others. Its ok to be a little envious, but move on quickly and don’t let it take root. 😊

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  2. Namrata says:

    Great post…I agree to a great extent..But there’s one thing I want to point out. For instance you gave example of comparing ur percentage with fellow students and thus proved that most of us r jealous and it’s very natural. But what if we compare our performance with the ideal conditions or perfections and let it be our motivation. For percentage it could be 100%, that’s ideal. For a machine It’s 100 % efficiency, that’s ideal again. So now we won’t compare with others and thus no jealousy…Always compete with perfection. It motivates you in an extraordinary way. πŸ™‚

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    • Rohan Gandhi says:

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion πŸ™

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion, no matter you agree with me or not.Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      But can you please tell me, why you always feel jealousy bad.

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      • Peace&Humanity says:

        There is a heat and there is a cold, they differ in name but actually they are the one and the same. Absence of heat is cold right. Jealousy is a negative quality, its positive quality is called inspiration and competitive sprite. You are confusing Jealousy with inspiration. When some people are successful and you want to be like them it is call inspiration not jealousy. Jealousy is a negative quality which create negative thoughts and negative personality. I hope you can relate to my perspective. Thanks for respect for my opinion.

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      • Rohan Gandhi says:

        I can totally relate to your perspective.
        Really good thinking πŸ‘

        But actually, my main motive for writing this post is that giving jealous people a new form of inspiration.Because the people who get inspired then, they can easily become successful in life.But what about the people who get jealous? Which are maximum of us.

        Btw,
        I’m really grateful to you for sharing this thoughtful comment πŸ™

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  3. Squashy Moss says:

    A very positive take on a negative word. I love the way you turn things on their heads. I don’t get jealous very often but when I do I get quite guilty. I was jealous of people that could traveI. When my children were small I loved being home. It was a joy to take them to birthday parties and school and the park. We had fun every day. Then when they grew up and moved away it felt like my life was over. My friends whose children had grown up travelled and I wanted to do that too. I wanted to travel like my friends. I felt sad when they told me about their romantic trips away. I even felt I deserved it more than they did and felt guilty for being so horrible. So I worked hard and saved money up. Sometimes the guilt was a good thing. I would give some of the money I had save away to homeless people and help them out. I planted a little garden where I work in the hospital grounds for the patients to relax in. They were less fortunate than me. Now I am fortunate to be travelling to Cyprus and India this year. So channelling the emotion of envy into ambition helped me make something good from a negative experience. So I am not jealous of people for fancy clothes, cars or houses. I just want to travel a bit. That’s all really. ☺️

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    • Rohan Gandhi says:

      I really understand, respect and appreciate your opinion.

      But if you always accept situations then, you never make progress.You have to make sure that situation accepts you.”That means you have to convert unfavorable situations into favorable situations”.

      By the by,
      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post πŸ™

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    • da-AL says:

      Nature on the Edge, good point – Rohan, this great post has inspired a lot of conversation! To me, you’ve pointed out the difference between being a problem solver vs a victim, someone who acts rather than reacts πŸ™‚

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  4. maryannniemczura says:

    Acceptance of our lot in life is key. Be motivated and work hard. Jealousy plays no part unless it happens to motivate you to start working towards your goals in life. Be too busy living your life to compare yourself to others! It is the only life you have been given. Be happy.

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  5. Wanda Luthman says:

    I love your spin on jealousy and can see how you are actually right if we are being honest with ourselves. Jealousy can most definitely be destructive but I like your idea of taking that negative energy and turning into positive energy by allowing it to motivate us.

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  6. PATRICK STORIES says:

    Your beautiful words just made my day. Thank you so much for adding such magical drop of words in my jar of motivation.I feel blessed by your writing right now.
    I found delight love in what you just said in your post.
    Again such a beautiful write up on your blog.
    Keep the vibes on.

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❀

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  7. floatinggold says:

    That is definitely an interesting outlook on things. You hit it the nail right on the head.
    There is destructive and productive jealousy. It is up to us to channel it in a positive direction rather than the toxic one.
    I never thought to myself to be a jealous person in any way. But maybe I am, but I just channel it really quickly into something else?

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