Being Judgemental Is Bad.Really?

Hello!!! Everyone, Today we live in that world in which everything is right as well as wrong.”Everyone has different perception towards life”.

Maximum people today don’t know the thing they are doing is right or wrong, they just do it because they have to do it.

But some time ago there are only two things.Which is one is right and one is wrong.But now Nothing is right and nothing is wrong.Everything is right and everything is wrong.

In today’s world if you see something wrong than it is your fault.It is not the fault of that person who is doing wrong because according to that person he is doing right that’s why he is doing it.”Because everyone in this world does anything by considering that thing right”.

So, you cannot be judgemental in today’s world.And even no one wants to be judgemental.And if you are being judgemental than you have to face the hate of people.

But I say everyone one of us is the judgemental.No person in this whole world can claim that he/she is not judgemental.And being judgemental is not the thing to be ashamed of.But it is a quality and a good quality.Which you can show to the whole world with the feeling of proud.

But first let know the meaning of judgemental.

having or displaying an overly critical point of view.

Generally, people use word being “judgemental” in a negative way.But according to me forming an opinion is called being judgemental.Whether it is good opinion or bad opinion, both come in the definition of being judgemental.

First, let’s talk about the people who claim to be non-judgemental.According to me no one in this world is non-judgemental.Everyone has a brain and everyone has thought process due to which everyone forms an opinion about anything and everything.That opinion could be good or bad.And some people say their opinion, so some people kept their opinion inside.So by this, we can say that everyone is judgemental.Some accept that fact, so some keep lying about that.

According to me if your judgemental than it is good.But if you pretend to be non-judgemental, then it might gonna cost you someday.Let’s try to understand this by the following the example.

Assume that If your daughter brought a new dress and it is not looking good on her.But if you don’t want to be sound like judgemental.Then you say, that dress is looking good on her.

And if you say this, then you are gonna commit two mistakes.First one is you are telling a lie and another one is whenever your daughter is gonna wear that dress.She is not gonna look good and people are gonna make fun of her.

On the other hand, if you tell the truth and try to be judgemental and say to her that she is not looking good in that dress.So she might get little upset with you.But by telling truth to her, she will be saved from the world’s humiliation.

I don’t understand why people always think being judgemental as a negative remark.But according to me, we only become judgemental to the people we care about.

For example:-

If our kid makes a false excuse for not going to the school because of stomach ache then, we become judgemental and say, “you never had a stomach ache when you go to play with your friends”.

But what if your neighbour says to you that his kid has not gone to school because he has a stomach ache then, you don’t give a damn because you don’t care about the neighbour’s kid.

But on the other hand, you become judgemental at your kid.You scold him because you care about him and you know if he doesn’t go to school then, he might not become successful in his life.

But some readers might be thinking that we also being judgemental towards the stranger people on the road or towards the celebrities but, we did not care about them.

Yes definitely, we are judgemental towards the stranger people.But it is because we feel connected to them in some ways.We might not know him or nor have any relations with them before.But when we see them on the streets for the first time we feel connected to them in some ways.Whether it is because of there appearance, clothes, or their way of talking or walking.And by that, we start to care about them.

And if we talk about celebrities then we either hate them or love them.And if you have any of that feeling then you became judgemental.

Because caring about someone always does not mean that we love that person or we always wanted good for that person.Sometimes if you hate someone then also you started to care about them that what problems he is having in his life and if he is having any problem, then we became happy by thinking that he is in trouble.

Let’s try to understand this more by the following example:-

If you hate someone and if the business of that person you hate fails, then what you say?.You say I know the person like that cannot become successful in his whole life.And if you do so then you become judgemental.

We humans always want to achieve something unique or great in our life.And for that we work hard, we humans can work hard but we cannot bear a negative remark from someone.

If someone becomes judgemental about you.Then if you like that judgment then accept it, but if you don’t like it then forget it.But who are you to say to the people that don’t be judgemental.Everyone has views, sometimes it is good so sometimes it is bad.

People say that judgemental people always be judgemental.They never become happy or satisfied with us, whatever we do.But I don’t think so.According to me, if someone is being judgemental about us then, there is definitely mistake in us.
But we never see our mistake, we always see other people’s mistake.And in this case, we are also seeing other people’s mistake.Which is they are being judgemental.

For example:-

If a student gets 99 marks out of 100 in a subject.Than judgemental people say, that student is still not perfect in that subject.And they are right because that student did not get full marks.That student has done a brilliant job no doubt but still, he has not got full marks.So how can we say that student is perfect in that subject.So the judgemental people are true.

And if you don’t like people’s judgment, then why you listen to them.But in your heart you also know that they are true, that’s why you always try to satisfy them.

For example:-

If you bought a new watch and 100 people compliment you.But if one person makes a negative remark about your watch.Then you always remember that negative remark of that one person.But you are not gonna remember the compliment of that 100 people.

And if next time you again brought a new watch.And if this time 200 people compliment you, but you never get satisfied with your watch until listening to comment of that person who made a negative comment on your first watch.

“And in the process of satisfying judgemental people, we work hard due to which we achieve the things we cannot even expect of”.And in this case of that student who got 99 marks.If that student listened to judgemental people and work hard then, definitely that student is gonna get 100 marks next time.

On the other hand, if we only praise that student for getting 99 marks.Then he might become overconfident by that praise due to which he becomes lazy.And by this, that student study less, which result that student in getting low marks.

And if we look carefully then we also find that we only get affected by the judgement of the people we care about, we know or we love.

For example:-

If you are going on the road and a so-called mad person came to you and say you cannot gonna do anything in your life, you are always gonna remain a loser.So what you do? you just ignore him, right? but why you do so.”It is because you don’t know him, you don’t love him and definitely, you did not care about him”.

But on the other hand, if your family say this thing to you that you cannot gonna do anything in your life, you are always gonna remain a loser.Then you say you are always being judged by your family.And you also feel sad after listening to this but why you feel this?.You feel like this because you know your family, you love your family, you care about your family.And by this all things you have some good exception from your family.

So we can say that we hate judgement of people because we always expect good comments about us.And if someone criticises us then, we feel a victim of judgement.And if someone praises us then, we suddenly fall in love with that praise or judgement.

And this happens because of nature of human being to always want good.And if something bad happens then, we human beings cannot digest that bad thing.

But some people might not find my above example appropriate and say, how can I compare judgement of mad person to judgement of whole normal family.They further say that, how can the judgement of a mad person can be correct.

And if you say this then, you are also being judgemental about me.

And by saying above line I am being judgemental about you, by thinking that you might be judgemental about me.

So this proves that everyone is judgemental.

And according to me, no judgement is correct or incorrect.Judgement is judgement.Sometimes if you find a judgement correct, but maybe that same judgement is incorrect in eyes of someone else.And sometimes you find a judgement correct, so someone else finds it incorrect.”In the end, it is all the game of perception”.

If you want to be successful in life then, you must have the guts to listen to people’s judgment.Because if you listen to only good things about you then, you’re never gonna become successful in life.Because in order to become successful you have to improve your bad qualities.

And if you don’t listen to people’s negative judgement then, you are never gonna be able to know about your bad qualities because everyone thinks that he/she is perfect.

As I mentioned earlier being judgemental is a quality.Because when you become judgemental then, you look at the all perspective of the thing which you want to be judgemental.

But being judgemental is like a diamond, more you polished it.It has more value.Just like a diamond is extracted from a coal mine.So if you have to achieve anything in your life which is a coal mine, from there you have to extract yourself like a diamond and afterward, we have to polish ourself.And if you do this than everyone respects your judgement no matter of good or bad.

Being judgemental is good, but we always have to be judgemental at someone by putting ourself in that situation first.That what we do if we are in that situation.Because judgemental means putting a view on someone by looking at all perspective.Like in a court, the judge only make the judgement after listening to all trials, statements, and evidence.He does not make judgement after listening to one statement.

“The only bad quality associated with being judgemental is that you only become judgemental towards other people.You cannot become judgemental of yourself.If you became judgemental towards yourself”.

Then you achieve new heights in your life.Because when you become judgemental towards mistakes of your life and try to improve them then,your gonna become more successful than ever.

So, became judgemental towards yourself.So that, no one else can become judgemental towards you.

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Selfless Is Selfish

Hello!!! everyone, In this article, I am gonna try to ‘shaken‘ your thoughts.So if you want to be ‘shaken‘ than read this article.

Otherwise please go if you do not want a new perception of life and if you want.Come, the path is ready.So let’s go together,

“We always try to become ‘good’ whether it is inside of us or outside”.We can become good on the outside by applying makeup on our face, we can improve our body by doing gym, or eating healthy food.

But that’s not enough.We also wanted to improve inside of us like our brain.We can improve the capacity of our brain by doing mental exercises.

But only increasing our mental capabilities is not improving ourself on inside.To really improve ourself we have to feel good inside and how can we feel that?.

By doing good for others.Yup, that’s right by doing a selfless act.

But actually what is selfless act???

concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one’s own is called selfless act.

Everyone tries to do this selfless act.Even the biggest evil person in his whole life at least one time he tries to do something selfless.Leave humans, even animals are selfless.They always love their owners without any exception of the prize.

But what if I say,

“No deed in this world is selfless”.

Yup, I know your thinking I am a very lonely writer who does not have someone to be loved or somebody to give love.And who does not care for anybody.So how I know the meaning of selfless?

But I say relax guys.First, give me a chance to explain myself that why I am saying that no deed is selfless.

I am saying like that because we are made like that.We are only made to improve ourself, not others.If we help someone there is definitely gonna be our own benefit is behind it.Whether we know it or not.

Our brain is both constructive and destructive but we are only using it’s the least capacity.Sometimes we do things without even knowing why we are doing these things.

For example:-

If we gave some bucks to charity.Then this is called selfless act.Right?

But I think we gave our money to charity because there are two reasons:-

To feel good.

Or

To expect good.

In the first scenario, we feel good that we have given money for good cause.Then how it became a selfless act, in this case, you’re giving money to feel good about yourself.

In the second scenario if you are giving money to charity.Then you think if I do something good than something good will happen to me that’s what we have been taught.So we are doing this in hope to help ourself.

But some people not agree with my theory.As usual, these people say “they do charity not to feel good nor to expect good” than why you do I say?

As I mentioned earlier our brain is both constructive and destructive.We do all things according to our brain.We humans cannot do anything without a purpose.”Sometimes you think you know purpose sometimes you don’t”.

The people who say they do charity just to do charity either they are lying or they truly don’t know why they are doing.But in the corner of their brain, they know why there are doing.They just keep dust on that secret.

Alright, let’s take another example:-

People say parents made selfless sacrifices for their children.But first of all, if they are their own children then how sacrifices they make are selfless?.It is our quality to do good for our loved ones but that is not a selfless act.I say it is a selfish act.Because selfish act means:-

lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.

And in this case, parents did sacrifice for their own kids.So that they became a good person and successful in life.And if they became a good person and successful in life.In the end, parents are the one who is celebrating more than kids.So how cannot be its one’s own personal profit.

But what if we help a stranger.Then again we do these for two things:-

To feel good.

Or

To expect good.

People say the true statue of the selfish act is animals.But I say no, they are not.They do anything whether it is to love you or they play with yourself.Because either they want something from you or they love you.

If they want anything from you whether it is food, love, shelter.Then how it is selfless? And if they love you then it is there own personal profit because everyone always care about their loved ones.

But I think selfish acts are better than selfless.Because in the selfless act you do not care much.But in the selfish act, you go to the extreme to do something.

For example:-

The soldiers of our nation fight for ourselves.They sacrifice their comfort, their family love for ourselves, even they sacrifice their own life for us.So they are selfish for other peoples.

But what if they became selfless and think why I care about other peoples life?.Then what will happen?

So I can say that I want to become selfish like that soldier.Or I want to become selfish like that fireman who is selfish about saving people by taking danger on his own life.Or I want to become selfish like that animal who can do whatever it takes to save his master if he is in danger.

“I say being selfish is more important than being selfless”.

Because if our family become selfless for us.Then they don’t go ‘extreme’ for us.But if they are selfish then, they put their maximum effort to make ourself ‘successful’.

I say being selfless is like that ‘water particles’ on our car’s windshield in the rainy season just like that water particles cannot allow ourself to look at the world.Exactly like that being selfless cannot allow ourself to look at the true meaning of the word the ‘selfish’.

If you think your selfless than it’s for your own good.But if you want to make a world better place than you have to become selfish for the world.

If you want to make your loved ones successful, then become selfish for your loved ones.If you want to make environment pollution free, then become selfish for the environment.If you want to save animals then, become selfish for animals.

“I say being selfish is the beautiful gift.If We use it in a positive way, then we can make a great future for our childrens and for ourself”.

But we have to take care of one thing which is if you become selfish.Than became selfish like that you don’t hurt anyone.

In the end, I am gonna say one thing which is “become selfish for the loved ones and become selfless for the people who you hate”.

If you do that then you push your limits for the people who you love or for the people your selfish.And if you became selfless for the people you hate than you don’t care about them and if you don’t care about them than you don’t want to hurt them.Because if we do not care about something then we nor want good or bad for that thing.So,

Became selfish in a selfless way”

Mad = ???

Hello!!! Everyone, “it is said that everyone in this whole world is different and unique.No one is like other.Everyone has unique, different, and special thinking and personality”.

But in general “that thinking is considered to be normal which is maximum people have”.But if every one of us is different and unique than how come our thinking should be same?

In this world, “everyone wants to have different thinking but they also want there thinking should match people’s view otherwise your gonna be called mad in society”.

So what is mad?

mentally ill; insane.

But if we look carefully then we also get one more definition of mad.

very enthusiastic about someone or something is also known as mad.

But how can this is possible that one word has two different meanings?

Exactly that’s what I am trying to say that even “mad” word has two different meaning than why not we people have different opinions or approach towards life.

But some readers might be thinking that different thinking is not classified under the definition of being mad.But according to me if you have a different perception or thinking than people call you mad.If your thinking does not match with society people’s thinking than you will be declared as mad.

For eg in holidays if a student whose exams have happened and he get passed away with good grades.But he has not learned or understood one topic clearly so he is still studying that topic.So we say he is mad why? it is because his exams have passed away and he is still studying for an old topic.But what if in his holidays he study’s for his next class so we say he is very intelligent and hardworking boy.

But actually, the meaning of study is learning things not earning grades.But today we look at grades, not how much student has learned.And if a student believes in learning not in grades so we call him mad.Why? it is because he has different thinking than normal people.

So,

The thing which we cannot understand we called it as mad.

Okay now let’s take another example:
If a person who is in the corporate job who is earning good money but he has a dream of becoming an actor but he is also not very good looking.Even so, he leaves his job and gives a shot to an acting career than people say he is out of his mind why because he left his job for a career which has less success rate as compared to other professions.

But if you look carefully than acting does not have anything related to looking and what if he earned enough money from his job and then he leaves it.

So,

if your dreamer than people calls you mad.

Again if you are that type person who is always ready to help others without even taking care of your own loss than society calls you mad.For eg, if you see a poor man injured on the road and you take him to the hospital and you happily paid his bills because he does not have any money.But if you tell this incident to peoples than they say you are mad by spending money of your hard work on saving a stranger life.

So,

Help others and becomes mad in this world.

By this, we can say that In this, so-called normal people’s society money is more important than someone’s life.

Let’s take one more example:
Consider a good looking girl fell in love with not so good looking boy and wants to marry him than people say why are you marrying that ugly person? You can get much more handsome boy than him.Are you out of your mind?

But I say being good looking does not have any connection to fall in love.And if it has a connection than how come blind people fall in love? because they have never seen their special one in their whole life.

So,

If you’re in true love than you are mad.

But some people are thinking I am just making this article long with nonsense points.

So now let’s talk about the real mad person.Who has big nails, dirty clothing, bang his head every second, always abuses, try to hurt himself and others.

So according to you, he is proper mad.Right? And if we ask that mad person who is mad than he says we are mad.so who is mad? but in my opinion, no one is not mad.

Alright, answer me one thing why we do anything in our life whether it is eating, running, working, sleeping, in short, every activity of our life.It is because we like doing it.We cannot do anything without our desire.Sometimes we know what is our desire and so sometimes we don’t.

That mad person also does all these so-called mad activities because he desires to that and by doing that he feels happy.And we are just saying that person is mad because he is not successful what if he has same qualities like banging his head, abusing others, wearing dirty clothes but he has a lot of money and he is successful than we say he might feel happy living like this.

So,

A mad person is only mad when he is poor.

But some say science has proved that the person “who is mad has mental instability”.But what science are you talking about?.Science changes its definition every day.In olden times can you imagine we were able to fly in the sky but now we are doing it with the help of airplanes.So after some time “if science itself proves that a mad person is more intelligent than normal peoples”.so don’t get surprised.

Some people agree with me on this.They say you have to be mad to do something unique in this world but again, sorry I do not agree with you I am not saying that being mad is good I am just saying “that it is a way of our thinking to see things”.

Nowadays it is in a fashion that everyone calls himself mad and consider it a compliment but at the end, the meaning of mad person is having a mental illness.

I am just saying that no one in this world is mad.Everyone is unique in there own way sometimes we understand so sometimes we don’t.

But in today’s modern world if we call someone normal person than he takes it as offensive that how can you call someone normal?.They say everyone is unique and different.

And if we call someone different than they again say what quality of mad or different does I possess.I do each and every activity which every normal person do.

So at the end what we want?

We just wanted to do things which we like but we cannot do that thing.”Which is because of what people say in society, family pressure, our responsibilities and due to many more factors”.

And if some person does things according to what they want.Then we say they are mad because we cannot do things which we want.So how can they do it? Actually, we are jealous of them.And that jealous closes the door of our thinking and understanding and we declare them as mad.

But if you think being mad is subject of proud and happy.Then just go take a look at the mental hospital.Your gonna find out yourself what is being a mad person means.

The main problem Is that today we are so busy in our routine life that we cannot see changes and if we see something different no matter which is good or bad than we label it as “mad”.

According to me, no one is mad everyone has there own thinking.So stopping judging other people and try to live your life.

And if you believe in that saying which says “every genius in the world is sometimes called mad by normal people”.Than become mad but on one condition that you have to leave your impact on society.There are some people who in this process of achieving tag of mad which according to them is unique.They destroy their normal life.And if they cannot achieve anything after that.They became frustrated and mentally ill.

So in the end,

We all are genius.
We all are stupid.
We all are intelligent.
We all are mad.
We all are good.
We all are bad.
We all are human.
We all are mad.