Being Judgemental Is Bad.Really?

Hello!!! Everyone, Today we live in that world in which everything is right as well as wrong.”Everyone has different perception towards life”.

Maximum people today don’t know the thing they are doing is right or wrong, they just do it because they have to do it.

But some time ago there are only two things.Which is one is right and one is wrong.But now Nothing is right and nothing is wrong.Everything is right and everything is wrong.

In today’s world if you see something wrong than it is your fault.It is not the fault of that person who is doing wrong because according to that person he is doing right that’s why he is doing it.”Because everyone in this world does anything by considering that thing right”.

So, you cannot be judgemental in today’s world.And even no one wants to be judgemental.And if you are being judgemental than you have to face the hate of people.

But I say everyone one of us is the judgemental.No person in this whole world can claim that he/she is not judgemental.And being judgemental is not the thing to be ashamed of.But it is a quality and a good quality.Which you can show to the whole world with the feeling of proud.

But first let know the meaning of judgemental.

having or displaying an overly critical point of view.

Generally, people use word being “judgemental” in a negative way.But according to me forming an opinion is called being judgemental.Whether it is good opinion or bad opinion, both come in the definition of being judgemental.

First, let’s talk about the people who claim to be non-judgemental.According to me no one in this world is non-judgemental.Everyone has a brain and everyone has thought process due to which everyone forms an opinion about anything and everything.That opinion could be good or bad.And some people say their opinion, so some people kept their opinion inside.So by this, we can say that everyone is judgemental.Some accept that fact, so some keep lying about that.

According to me if your judgemental than it is good.But if you pretend to be non-judgemental, then it might gonna cost you someday.Let’s try to understand this by the following the example.

Assume that If your daughter brought a new dress and it is not looking good on her.But if you don’t want to be sound like judgemental.Then you say, that dress is looking good on her.

And if you say this, then you are gonna commit two mistakes.First one is you are telling a lie and another one is whenever your daughter is gonna wear that dress.She is not gonna look good and people are gonna make fun of her.

On the other hand, if you tell the truth and try to be judgemental and say to her that she is not looking good in that dress.So she might get little upset with you.But by telling truth to her, she will be saved from the world’s humiliation.

I don’t understand why people always think being judgemental as a negative remark.But according to me, we only become judgemental to the people we care about.

For example:-

If our kid makes a false excuse for not going to the school because of stomach ache then, we become judgemental and say, “you never had a stomach ache when you go to play with your friends”.

But what if your neighbour says to you that his kid has not gone to school because he has a stomach ache then, you don’t give a damn because you don’t care about the neighbour’s kid.

But on the other hand, you become judgemental at your kid.You scold him because you care about him and you know if he doesn’t go to school then, he might not become successful in his life.

But some readers might be thinking that we also being judgemental towards the stranger people on the road or towards the celebrities but, we did not care about them.

Yes definitely, we are judgemental towards the stranger people.But it is because we feel connected to them in some ways.We might not know him or nor have any relations with them before.But when we see them on the streets for the first time we feel connected to them in some ways.Whether it is because of there appearance, clothes, or their way of talking or walking.And by that, we start to care about them.

And if we talk about celebrities then we either hate them or love them.And if you have any of that feeling then you became judgemental.

Because caring about someone always does not mean that we love that person or we always wanted good for that person.Sometimes if you hate someone then also you started to care about them that what problems he is having in his life and if he is having any problem, then we became happy by thinking that he is in trouble.

Let’s try to understand this more by the following example:-

If you hate someone and if the business of that person you hate fails, then what you say?.You say I know the person like that cannot become successful in his whole life.And if you do so then you become judgemental.

We humans always want to achieve something unique or great in our life.And for that we work hard, we humans can work hard but we cannot bear a negative remark from someone.

If someone becomes judgemental about you.Then if you like that judgment then accept it, but if you don’t like it then forget it.But who are you to say to the people that don’t be judgemental.Everyone has views, sometimes it is good so sometimes it is bad.

People say that judgemental people always be judgemental.They never become happy or satisfied with us, whatever we do.But I don’t think so.According to me, if someone is being judgemental about us then, there is definitely mistake in us.
But we never see our mistake, we always see other people’s mistake.And in this case, we are also seeing other people’s mistake.Which is they are being judgemental.

For example:-

If a student gets 99 marks out of 100 in a subject.Than judgemental people say, that student is still not perfect in that subject.And they are right because that student did not get full marks.That student has done a brilliant job no doubt but still, he has not got full marks.So how can we say that student is perfect in that subject.So the judgemental people are true.

And if you don’t like people’s judgment, then why you listen to them.But in your heart you also know that they are true, that’s why you always try to satisfy them.

For example:-

If you bought a new watch and 100 people compliment you.But if one person makes a negative remark about your watch.Then you always remember that negative remark of that one person.But you are not gonna remember the compliment of that 100 people.

And if next time you again brought a new watch.And if this time 200 people compliment you, but you never get satisfied with your watch until listening to comment of that person who made a negative comment on your first watch.

“And in the process of satisfying judgemental people, we work hard due to which we achieve the things we cannot even expect of”.And in this case of that student who got 99 marks.If that student listened to judgemental people and work hard then, definitely that student is gonna get 100 marks next time.

On the other hand, if we only praise that student for getting 99 marks.Then he might become overconfident by that praise due to which he becomes lazy.And by this, that student study less, which result that student in getting low marks.

And if we look carefully then we also find that we only get affected by the judgement of the people we care about, we know or we love.

For example:-

If you are going on the road and a so-called mad person came to you and say you cannot gonna do anything in your life, you are always gonna remain a loser.So what you do? you just ignore him, right? but why you do so.”It is because you don’t know him, you don’t love him and definitely, you did not care about him”.

But on the other hand, if your family say this thing to you that you cannot gonna do anything in your life, you are always gonna remain a loser.Then you say you are always being judged by your family.And you also feel sad after listening to this but why you feel this?.You feel like this because you know your family, you love your family, you care about your family.And by this all things you have some good exception from your family.

So we can say that we hate judgement of people because we always expect good comments about us.And if someone criticises us then, we feel a victim of judgement.And if someone praises us then, we suddenly fall in love with that praise or judgement.

And this happens because of nature of human being to always want good.And if something bad happens then, we human beings cannot digest that bad thing.

But some people might not find my above example appropriate and say, how can I compare judgement of mad person to judgement of whole normal family.They further say that, how can the judgement of a mad person can be correct.

And if you say this then, you are also being judgemental about me.

And by saying above line I am being judgemental about you, by thinking that you might be judgemental about me.

So this proves that everyone is judgemental.

And according to me, no judgement is correct or incorrect.Judgement is judgement.Sometimes if you find a judgement correct, but maybe that same judgement is incorrect in eyes of someone else.And sometimes you find a judgement correct, so someone else finds it incorrect.”In the end, it is all the game of perception”.

If you want to be successful in life then, you must have the guts to listen to people’s judgment.Because if you listen to only good things about you then, you’re never gonna become successful in life.Because in order to become successful you have to improve your bad qualities.

And if you don’t listen to people’s negative judgement then, you are never gonna be able to know about your bad qualities because everyone thinks that he/she is perfect.

As I mentioned earlier being judgemental is a quality.Because when you become judgemental then, you look at the all perspective of the thing which you want to be judgemental.

But being judgemental is like a diamond, more you polished it.It has more value.Just like a diamond is extracted from a coal mine.So if you have to achieve anything in your life which is a coal mine, from there you have to extract yourself like a diamond and afterward, we have to polish ourself.And if you do this than everyone respects your judgement no matter of good or bad.

Being judgemental is good, but we always have to be judgemental at someone by putting ourself in that situation first.That what we do if we are in that situation.Because judgemental means putting a view on someone by looking at all perspective.Like in a court, the judge only make the judgement after listening to all trials, statements, and evidence.He does not make judgement after listening to one statement.

“The only bad quality associated with being judgemental is that you only become judgemental towards other people.You cannot become judgemental of yourself.If you became judgemental towards yourself”.

Then you achieve new heights in your life.Because when you become judgemental towards mistakes of your life and try to improve them then,your gonna become more successful than ever.

So, became judgemental towards yourself.So that, no one else can become judgemental towards you.

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89 thoughts on “Being Judgemental Is Bad.Really?

  1. Graham says:

    I think we are all programmed to judge each other because we all have our own beliefs and standards…I think the real skill is to be able to put negatives across in a constructive way…and if you haven’t got the ability to be constructive then just keep your negative remarks to yourself and go away. 🙂

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  2. Squashy Moss says:

    I love to read your posts they are always interesting and well written. I have to be judgemental every day in my job of others and myself. Sometimes the people I look after who have mental health problems attack me. They slap, bite and pull hair. They sometimes even punch and kick. We have to look at their behaviour and ask why? Why did they want to do this? Is it something I did? Is it a bad memory from the past? What can I do to help calm them? What can I do to be safe? All these are judgement calls that are made in seconds. Later when I write my report on the incident it can be hard to work out who was at fault. Sometimes it is a simple reason like I stood too close and they didn’t like it.

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    • Rohan Gandhi says:

      I’m really much obliged to you for reading and leaving such a thoughtful comment 🙏
      By the by,
      Your comments always made me think.Your job is very difficult but still, you do it, every day.They slap you, bite you, pull your hair, they punch and kick you and still you did not think of leaving that job.And you take care of them every day despite all this.
      You really are a great person.
      Salute to you.

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  3. Anony Mole says:

    Judgement, criticism, requires context. If the context is a dog show, then judging for best-of-show makes sense. If some society is the context then that society’s laws are the context. If we’re talking about random, self appointed topics, then the context is the Universe in general. And since the Universe is absurd, all judgements within an absurd universe must also be deemed absurd.
    If the Universe had a purpose, and that purpose was known, then that would provide context for judgement. But, since the Universe has no purpose, and in fact IS ABSURD…

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    • Rohan Gandhi says:

      That is very kind of you to read my post.
      Btw,
      Your comment is really interesting and intellectual.
      And I totally agree with you.
      Judgement serves no purpose.It is we people who always find purpose in every judgement.

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  4. mammaspeaks says:

    What a nicely thought about post! Had never thought or cared about whether I was judgemental or not. Well, in future, will think twice before saying or not saying anything, but will surely be judgemental towards myself and my loved ones.

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  5. Dr B says:

    All human beings are innately judgemental. Look up Personal Construct Theory, George Kelly. We see and exist in a world of bipolarness, we feel sad vs happy, warm vs cold, a room is light vs dark, the sky is clear vs cloudy, this wine is dry vs sweet ……. and all points in between from the moment we are born.

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  6. itsmeladynikki says:

    I was actually having a conversation with my friend about this yesterday. I believe there are rights and wrongs. A lot of time we come up with the “gray” in order to make ourselves feel better about our wrongs. I think we consciously know what is “right” and “wrong”, but don’t always want to adhere to it. But, yes, if you believe the opposite of others (even when you may be correct), people automatically use “judgmental” or “prejudice” as a form of self-defense. It’s sad that people can’t take criticism as a means of bettering themselves.

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  7. Marsa Alam Desert Retreat says:

    You are a true philosopher, we are fortunate that you know your talent and you’re willing to share your wisdom. We should distinguish between ‘Judging’ and being ‘Judgemental.’ To make a judgement is a perfectly natural and an acceptable thing, we are all hard wired to do this to get through life and to gauge situations and circumstances. However, to be ‘Judgemental’ doesn’t carry the same connotations. To be “Judgemental” we are judging based on our own position of superiority which is why as you say in todays’ liberal world it can be viewed as a negative thing. Also if we place ourselves in this position of superiority we should be above reproach or we ourselves will be judged. “Judge not lest you be judged” 😊

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    • Rohan Gandhi says:

      Your comment is true to life 👍
      I totally agree with you.
      Your comment does not have any chance of being wrong.
      By the by,
      I’m really much obliged to you for your compliment 🙏
      Your nice words really means a lot to me.

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  8. Bryan Fagan says:

    I’m still trying to figure out if I would want to be a kid in today’s world? Someday’s I say yes and others no. The technology is great but is that it? One day I’ll figure it out but by than I’ll be to old to care.
    Great stuff. Thanks!!!!

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  10. richcreativemuse says:

    I think you make a great point, and I could say you went on & on to make your point, but that would be judgmental.

    I do think we all have to realize we live in a world of different cultural norms, a relative universe as others have said. I believe that it is best to use discretion with my judgements, and I think some my own judgements could be termed prejudices. In this case, I think it’s wise to be discriminating, and distinguishing rather than judgmental in order to be a part of my community. Being judgmental perhaps in most people’s minds means ‘I’m right and that other guy is wrong or the wrong color, or some other difference’. That then is not judgmental but prejudiced, and we see how that makes our world.

    I think to live in the world today in a positive and loving way and to live the values I believe in, I want to think in terms of being inclusive rather than exclusive, so I can get along together with others and grow in understanding. So, in terms of scientific thinking, I don’t have to be ‘EITHER OR’ but can embody ‘BOTH AND’ way of discrimination or how I decide to be.

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